Older Sister. Not Necessarily Related.

By Jenny Heijun Wills | One World (2021)

Finalist for the 2019 Hilary Weston Writers’ Trust Prize for Nonfiction

A Globe and Mail Best Book of the Year

A CBC Best Canadian Non-Fiction Book of the Year

A beautiful and haunting memoir of kinship and culture rediscovered.

Jenny Heijun Wills was born in Korea and adopted as an infant into a white family in small-town Canada. In her late twenties, she reconnected with her first family and returned to Seoul where she spent four months getting to know other adoptees, as well as her Korean mother, father, siblings, and extended family. At the guesthouse for transnational adoptees where she lived, alliances were troubled by violence and fraught with the trauma of separation and of cultural illiteracy. Unsurprisingly, heartbreakingly, Wills found that her nascent relationships with her family were similarly fraught.

Ten years later, Wills still has ties with her Korean family. And little by little, she is learning and relearning her stories, piecing together a fragmented life into a whole.

Delving into gender, class, racial, and ethnic complexities, as well as into the complex relationships between Korean women—sisters, mothers and daughters, grandmothers and grandchildren, aunts and nieces—Older Sister. Not Necessarily Related. describes in visceral, lyrical prose the painful ripple effects that follow a child’s removal from a family, and the rewards that can flow from both struggle and forgiveness.